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11) Break off your association with Andrew Windsor

The Grauniad has a good article about decision making, fomo and fobo
Fear of more options
Fear of better options

Wish I had read and understood it a few years ago

The Grauniad reports that physical excersize is good for mental health
An expert recommends taking a friend along
Not much good if the problem is loneliness

Cyril Haearn wrote:The Grauniad has a good article about decision making, fomo and fobo
Fear of more options
Fear of better options

Wish I had read and understood it a few years ago

Google fomo: it is definitely usually used to mean "Fear of Missing Out".

(which is not to say that the article content is not useful!)

mattheus wrote:

Cyril Haearn wrote:The Grauniad has a good article about decision making, fomo and fobo
Fear of more options
Fear of better options

Wish I had read and understood it a few years ago

Google fomo: it is definitely usually used to mean "Fear of Missing Out".

(which is not to say that the article content is not useful!)

Both/all are true
Fomo, fomo, fobo

7 take a break

Dozed until 12oo today, felt guilty for a moment, then I realised it was allowed
Trouble is maybe, one should go to bed when darkness falls, four hours later

4 drink sensibly

I gave up alcohol nearly 30 years ago

Cyril Haearn wrote:4 drink sensibly

I gave up alcohol nearly 30 years ago

+1. I'm not completely teetotal but drink very little. And we've decided to drop alcohol from most of our cooking recipes. For example, our recipe for Moules Marinières incorporates a splash of white wine. We recently tried it with a 0% alcohol 'wine' and the mussels taste just as good. Way2go!

Mental health tip? What number are we up to? 12? OK. 12) Be recovering from a successful operation. I am in that enviable position: I can tell you, the uncontrollable jitters I was feeling as I was wheeled into the anaesthetic room, followed by the immense relief as I was brought out from under and told all was OK .... a great lift to one's spirits...

But that's not for everyone I suppose.

3 Eat well [it's the digestion, stupid!]

Breakfast like a king
Lunch like a farmer
Supper like a beggar

Just complied with the first sentence, had lentil soup for breakfast

Cyril Haearn wrote:3 Eat well [it's the digestion, stupid!]

Breakfast like a king
Lunch like a farmer
Supper like a beggar

Just complied with the first sentence, had lentil soup for breakfast

But what about 2nd breakfast, elevenses, afternoon tea & "just a little something before bed" ?

Cyril Haearn wrote:...Breakfast like a king...

So what exactly does a king have for breakfast? I'm reminded of A A Milne's charming little ditty:

A A Milne wrote:The King asked
The Queen, and
The Queen asked
The Dairymaid:
‘Could we have some butter for
The Royal slice of bread?’
The Queen asked
The Dairymaid,
The Dairymaid
Said, ‘Certainly,
I’ll go and tell the cow
Now
Before she goes to bed.’
...

Just complied with the first sentence, had lentil soup for breakfast

Aha! Can't match that, though I do quite often scoff half an avocado. And not a Full English in sight!

Read a story once about a day where the sequence of meals was reversed, cigars and brandy, then dessert, then dinner main course, then soup,
..
Porridge just before bedtime, it was very trying apparently

Cannae remember who wrote it, Evelyn Waugh maybe, or that is the sort of thing Jerome K Jerome might have dreamed up
..
There are diet suggestions, one should avoid eating for 12 or 16 hours out of 24, plusminus?

I spend too much time brooding about the past, when people were nasty to me years ago for example
How may one train oneself to focus on the future?

'Look to the future now, it's only just begun.. ' (Noddy Holder + Slade)

Cyril Haearn wrote:4 drink sensibly
I gave up alcohol nearly 30 years ago

I decided,for personal reasons,to abstain from alcohol indefinitely on Christmas day.I like the taste of a good beer but don't much like the morning after any more.I have been trying alcohol free beers/lagers with limited success.I find all the lagers too sweet and most of the beers tasteless I have however found three very good AF beers(All from Brewdog)so they are my replacement beverage of choice now
I feel 110% better,have lost 7lbs and for the first time in years I went out with the CC last Sunday totally hangover free.....quite a revelation!

Cyril Haearn wrote:I spend too much time brooding about the past, when people were nasty to me years ago for example
How may one train oneself to focus on the future?

'Look to the future now, it's only just begun.. ' (Noddy Holder + Slade)

I have much sympathy here. I was brought up in a religious cult. Leaving in my 20s meant walking away from everything I knew, including family (they cut me off). I never saw my mother again, I saw my father a handful of times in his later years and we were wonderfully reconciled.

I still after almost 50 years occasionally get overwhelmed. Not like I used to, though: I found finding and helping those less fortunate was the greatest help, along with singing and getting out doors. I got through my teens by cycling all day and playing the piano - not at the same time.

You are right: whilst the past can ground you and teach you how not to treat others, we can suffer hugely. We must look forward and try to make the world a better place. Best wishes in your journey.