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What's true is that the sexual urge can be overpowering (sex is often put at Level 1 in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs)
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Well that's just silly, it clearly doesn't come anywhere near actual physiological needs.
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^^ The formatting seems to have got tangled up but the gist of the comment is still there.
Some people are ‘silly’ and some people are very ‘driven’, those people that are both ‘silly’ and ‘driven’ are going to do things that won’t necessarily have a good outcome. That’s life and why some folk live in poverty with many children ... there are answers to that situation but let’s not get too much thread drift.
Then there’s ordinary folk, in the U.K. six children wasn’t at all unusual. Parents couldn’t afford the children and knew why they arrived but didn’t change their actions. Something must be pretty high up the needs list. Marriage at sixteen was not uncommon, something must have been pretty high up the needs list.
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[XAP]Bob wrote: ↑11 Oct 2021, 12:56pm
I believe that it happens, I don't believe it's necessary, and I know that it is frequently harmful.
I'm also not aware of any people who waited and regret doing so, I know several who regret not waiting.
I suppose it all depends what one’s social circle and bubble is ... and how frank and honest people actually are. I had relatives that were hard line Baptist’s and their view would match yours, but they viewed the world in an idealistic way that happened to work for them. I respect the way that they lived their lives, but what worked for them does not necessarily work for all other people.
Interestingly I know of a young couple locally who have strong religious convictions, it seems that they got carried away with things and whilst the young Lady might not have been pregnant - I don’t think it entered into their thought process - they still got married ASAP. The act had happened and so they formalised their ‘union’ before God. Love can overpower some people, many people even, and I applaud that couple’s conviction to their principles.
Edit. Whilst out this morning my mind drifted towards people ‘not regretting that they had waited’. I them quickly brought to mind some people who very much regretted that they had waited and would have been saved much unhappiness had they lived and slept with their partners before marriage. Those people are now divorced and happily remarried to other people.
Don’t fret, it’s OK to: ride a simple old bike; ride slowly, walk, rest and admire the view; ride off-road; ride in your raincoat; ride by yourself; ride in the dark; and ride one hundred yards or one hundred miles. Your bike and your choices to suit you.