Impending conversation with my wife

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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby horizon » 22 May 2018, 10:39pm

I'm also beginning to think that this thread has more to do with relationship issues than helmet issues. How do you cope with things like vaccinations if you disagree? Or just simple risk taking like foreign travel? And then there is the trust needed to accept your partner's decisions. I suppose I would couch it in terms like this:

"I would always do whatever you wanted me to do because your happiness means everything to me and I trust your judgment. But there will be times when I cannot go along with something and I need you to trust that I'm making the right decision for both of us. I might even be wrong and I'm willing to keep an open mind but right now I'm asking you to accept and support my decision even though it's a tough one. And if you can, it's something that I'm going to remember when you need my support for something that I find difficult."

No mention of helmets.
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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby brooksby » 23 May 2018, 9:31am

Quick update: forgot to check the family calendar, so my wife was out last night and I dodged a bullet. And I'm on the bus today as I haven't worked out how to carry a full-size mop (which I need to buy) on a bike. As and when It happens, I'll of course let you all know... :D

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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby tod28 » 23 May 2018, 9:45am

brooksby wrote: I haven't worked out how to carry a full-size mop (which I need to buy) on a bike. :D


Bungee'd fore 'n aft to the side of the top tube?

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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby reohn2 » 23 May 2018, 9:59am

brooksby wrote:Quick update: forgot to check the family calendar, so my wife was out last night and I dodged a bullet. And I'm on the bus today as I haven't worked out how to carry a full-size mop (which I need to buy) on a bike. As and when It happens, I'll of course let you all know... :D

Perhaps if you remove the mop head from the handle and wear it as a h*lm*t ,as it's as much use :wink:,and use the long handle as a lance to fend of cars :)
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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby Vorpal » 23 May 2018, 12:48pm

brooksby wrote:Quick update: forgot to check the family calendar, so my wife was out last night and I dodged a bullet. And I'm on the bus today as I haven't worked out how to carry a full-size mop (which I need to buy) on a bike. As and when It happens, I'll of course let you all know... :D

The most important advice ;) bungee the mop to the top tube.
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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby Pastychomper » 23 May 2018, 1:23pm

Could this be an opportunity to start the conversation yourself, rather than wait until caught in the act? Casually mention you'll be back on the bike tomorrow, oh and by the way, haven't used the helmet for commuting for months after reading up on the pros and cons. Maybe drop in that (a) you didn't twig until recently that she hadn't noticed, and/or (b) drivers give cyclists less space if they have helmets on (research done at Bath and quoted somewhere in this forum, iirc).

Not knowing either of you I can't say if the above is a good idea, but it might start the conversation with a lower adrenaline concentration.
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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby Phil Fouracre » 23 May 2018, 2:06pm

Perhaps you could tie the mop at right angles to the bike! That would stop any close passes :-)
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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby NATURAL ANKLING » 23 May 2018, 4:25pm

Hi,
I thought sometimes that there were needs for two half bricks fitted to the handlebars that would suit some conditions.
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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby Cyril Haearn » 23 May 2018, 5:50pm

tod28 wrote:
brooksby wrote: I haven't worked out how to carry a full-size mop (which I need to buy) on a bike. :D


Bungee'd fore 'n aft to the side of the top tube?

Tennis-racket holder on the forks, like the girls at St Trinians used, just make sure not to bash any bridges
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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby The utility cyclist » 24 May 2018, 1:03am

Hmmm, smells like middle class southern softie talk, don't wear one, ignore her and she'll either stop nagging or file for divorce, win/win if you ask me :lol:
Why should you compromise on something you've decided based on fact, she sounds like she wouldn't be receptive for something on the other foot. Not a single women in my life incl my childs mother has mentioned helmets nor indeed for the boy either.
Take a stand fgs or just keep ignoring the nagging!

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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby Cunobelin » 24 May 2018, 6:43am

tod28 wrote:
brooksby wrote: I haven't worked out how to carry a full-size mop (which I need to buy) on a bike. :D


Bungee'd fore 'n aft to the side of the top tube?


Replace the front forks - ride and clean at the same time...

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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby Cyril Haearn » 25 Jun 2018, 6:28am

Cunobelin wrote:
tod28 wrote:
brooksby wrote: I haven't worked out how to carry a full-size mop (which I need to buy) on a bike. :D


Bungee'd fore 'n aft to the side of the top tube?


Replace the front forks - ride and clean at the same time...

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Plus One, the little angels can clean up and have fun at once :wink:
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Re: Impending conversation with my wife

Postby Cyril Haearn » 30 Jun 2018, 9:29pm

A while has elapsed
Did the conversation take place, has the situation resolved itself? Was doing nothing an option?
Nice one Cyrille, nice one son..
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