AlaninWales wrote:This would be a good argument except ... that it is not true. The assumption here is that only men address women in these terms - or that it is onl when men address women with "love" or "pet" that it matters. Plenty of women (and a few men) call me "love" or "pet" and yes, it is more prevalent from Northeners. Ability to take offence at that lies with the individual.
Well putting aside I'm a mysogynist
, I regularly get called "pet" and "luv". Not from anyone in any way related but from checkout girls in major name supermarkets. Some have got to know me over time, others have never seen me, they're just using friendly terms to address me...... and you know something I find it very pleasant indeed and take no offence or feel belittled. I also regularly get called "mate" by males in various employment and have ben called "john" a few times as in the southern style generic addressing of a man.
It's entertaining to be called "son" by someone you know is much younger
. Perhaps as a friendly northerner I have a less PC view of such terms of address. Regarding shane sutton telling jess varnish "to go away and have a baby", well I've heard several people get told to "go and boil there head" but insulting though it may be they did not take it literally. When in a fit of peak, or in an argument, people use terms to cause wilful hurt or anger.... isn't that what arguments tend to be, they're not a time for happy, smiley joviality. We don't know the background to his reactions and the stresses that may have led to his responses. We all inhibit our true thoughts and feelings, in the heat of rage our underlying self may show itself.
I once infuriated someone by stating in a discussion of inclusivity and diversity, that we are all rascist..... but I said the term should be removed and replaced with discrimination( race is only a tiny part of what actually it is ). The bottom line is that each and everyone on here discriminates, whether that be bias towards people of specific backgrounds, age ,sex etc. We have a mental checklist when selecting friends, oh they like bikes, oh they vote tory, oh they hate dogs.... All the things we have as approved criteria for choosing a friend, but in the extremes where people have had life experiences to affect their decisions or are in a fight to survive, those tickpoints may end off in all the areas we class as racist, sexist, ageist...... discrimination. So we all naturally do it and to different extremes and social pressures/experiences. In times of crisis we it really kicks in to extreme levels for all. If the uk was in famine, northerners would stand against southerners, then each county would stand against the next, then city v city, street v street and finally family v family, all to fight for the right to survive. Thats when we see human nature and its inherent discrimination to the extreme.