Just venting (advice from a stranger)

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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby mjr » 30 May 2019, 2:39pm

brooksby wrote:I stopped, pointed out I was riding on the path because I'd been bullied off the road by speeding cars, then got into a brief but heated helmet debate ( :evil: ) where apparently in failing to wear a helmet I was threatening to leave my children as orphans (and she knew I had children, how?).

I hope that I'd say that they don't reduce casualty rates and they're large chunks of single-use plastics, so using one would be threatening to leave your children on a desolate wasteland through environmental abuse. ;)

reohn2 wrote:BTW,ever tried telling soemone to "put the phone down" when they're driving?
I gave up on that a loonnngggg time ago.....

I moved to pointing out the phoney driver to the following motorists. If you can't stop the phone abuser, you might as well warn those behind that he/she will probably drive badly.
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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby brynpoeth » 30 May 2019, 2:52pm

What should I do when driving, stopped at the lights, I spot that the driver behind is telephoning? Should I refuse to move off to stop (minimise) an offence?
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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby mjr » 30 May 2019, 3:25pm

brynpoeth wrote:What should I do when driving, stopped at the lights, I spot that the driver behind is telephoning? Should I refuse to move off to stop (minimise) an offence?

Doesn't stop the offence. If you've spotted them, remember to send your dash cam footage to the police when you get home. Not much else you can do. Another way that cycling is more socially responsible!
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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby Richard Fairhurst » 30 May 2019, 3:36pm

brooksby wrote:Cycling home last night, riding on the (narrow) shared-use path going through the village of Abbots Leigh (here - https://goo.gl/maps/qQ9RK7L8JtQfTG8P8 ).


I suspect the best response here is that "Thou mayst smile at all thy foes".

(For those who don't recognise it, Abbot's Leigh is the name of the hymn tune to which 'Glorious things of thee are spoken' is most often sung, and that's the last line of the first verse...)
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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby Stradageek » 30 May 2019, 5:42pm

My friend the off-duty British Transport Policeman has a wonderful approach to motorists on their phones and in earshot - he just yells authoritatively 'put that phone down!'.

It leaves no room for argument and seems to work every time.

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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby hondated » 30 May 2019, 6:54pm

What a lot of mean spirited people you are !
The lady was clearly concerned about the OP safety and got into a debate of which she did not know how contentious it is.
Can you wonder why she is of the opinion she is given all of the pro helmet debate she must read of.
Oh and lighten up everyone however you feel its really not going to matter one iota.

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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby reohn2 » 30 May 2019, 7:17pm

hondated wrote:What a lot of mean spirited people you are !
The lady was clearly concerned about the OP safety and got into a debate of which she did not know how contentious it is.
Can you wonder why she is of the opinion she is given all of the pro helmet debate she must read of.
Oh and lighten up everyone however you feel its really not going to matter one iota.

No,such people are busybodies who don't know when to mind their own business.
I'll debate helmets with anyone,what I won't do is be told that I should be wearing one by someone who knows sweet FA about them or their usefulness.
I'm getting piddled off enough as it is with idiot drivers treating me like something stuck on the bottom of their shoe,without people interfering with my freedom! :twisted:
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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby brynpoeth » 30 May 2019, 7:21pm

I think she was just ignorant, nothing to be ashamed of
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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby reohn2 » 30 May 2019, 8:55pm

brynpoeth wrote:I think she was just ignorant, nothing to be ashamed of

If someone's ignorant of a subject then how can they hold a valid opinion on it ?
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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby Mike Sales » 30 May 2019, 9:00pm

reohn2 wrote:
brynpoeth wrote:I think she was just ignorant, nothing to be ashamed of

If someone's ignorant of a subjespct then how can hold a valid opinion on it ?


When did ignorance stop anybody from opining? Besides everyone knows cyclists should wear helmets.

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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby reohn2 » 30 May 2019, 9:05pm

Mike Sales wrote:
reohn2 wrote:
brynpoeth wrote:I think she was just ignorant, nothing to be ashamed of

If someone's ignorant of a subjespct then how can hold a valid opinion on it ?


When did ignorance stop anybody from opining? Besides everyone knows cyclists should wear helmets.

Nail*,head ,on!


*or should that be Helmet :wink:
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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby brynpoeth » 30 May 2019, 9:12pm

She needs to be educated
Two or more h****ts, n+1, six impossible things :wink:
I should have started by pointing out that there is no h****t law in the UK
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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby Cugel » 31 May 2019, 10:02am

reohn2 wrote:
brynpoeth wrote:I think she was just ignorant, nothing to be ashamed of

If someone's ignorant of a subjespct then how can hold a valid opinion on it ?


As you know, all opinions are now equally valid as none of them have to be validated anymore, only tweeted.

This applies to all subjespcts, even spelin! :-)

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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby reohn2 » 31 May 2019, 10:09am

Cugel wrote:
reohn2 wrote:
brynpoeth wrote:I think she was just ignorant, nothing to be ashamed of

If someone's ignorant of a subjespct then how can hold a valid opinion on it ?


As you know, all opinions are now equally valid as none of them have to be validated anymore, only tweeted.

Cugel

Good point!

This applies to all subjespcts, even spelin! :-)

Or even missing out complete words altogether :oops:


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Re: Just venting (advice from a stranger)

Postby Tangled Metal » 31 May 2019, 10:15am

brooksby wrote:In what other field of human activity do people feel it's acceptable to give unsolicited advice to perfect strangers???

You obviously never met my gran. If you had by the time you'd left she would have your family history and given you her sage advice.

Seriously there's people who have opinions and don't see anything wrong with sharing them. On a forum it's considered positive, in real life it's often considered negative.

IMHO (and I'm a stranger giving you advice without the right to do so) it's really not even worth acknowledgement. You smiled at the positive but could you have played deaf to the negative? You were riding away so could easily have just missed the last comment. Helmet choice is yours as is ignoring the self righteous telling you what to do.