The utility cyclist wrote:Well I totally disagree, I've never had any hostile reaction, people are always thankful for being considerate and siply showing a common courtesy, slowing down and actually just talking to someone.
Always? I doubt that. I'd expect at least some of them to be unexpressive, but maybe people where you are are less guarded than typical southerners
As for your use of the word 'sneaking', really, you live in some strange world far different from mine and most others if you think coming up to someone and simply asking them in a polite manner to briefly move aside as you might in a supermarket, as you might in the street, at the leisure centre, at work.
I don't ask people to "move aside". That would be rude, although not quite as rude as saying "move aside, peasant!"
So if yu come up to someone in the street and say excuse me that's 'sneaking' up on them is it
Yep. That's probably rude in most situations. Get over yourself and wait for there to be space to pass safely and with adequate clearance. Say "excuse me" only if you misjudge it and invade their personal space, or need to make them aware of your presence for some other reason.
As it is I've never had to tap someone on the shoulder, but if the person is stone deaf and there is no obvious space to overtake/get past for any distance (which is extremely rare in itself) then a hand on the shoulder to say excuse me would be the only option left.
The only option? Why not wait? As you say, it's pretty rare.
I can honestly say I've never heard someone state that saying excuse me to a person is sneaking and hostile/insensitive, utterly bonkers!
And still you haven't - it's the approaching from behind unannounced and undetected which I say is sneaking up.