Mick F wrote:We're getting a puppy!
Collecting him on Wednesday next week. Went round to visit him again today.
He'll be our fifth Border Collie. First one was in 1974 a year after we married.
Well just make sure the Bodmin Beast dont get it
Mick F wrote:We're getting a puppy!
Collecting him on Wednesday next week. Went round to visit him again today.
He'll be our fifth Border Collie. First one was in 1974 a year after we married.
Audax67 wrote:Get a dog.
We have three cats, but we've not seen one of them since Thursday.mercalia wrote:Mick F wrote:We're getting a puppy!
Collecting him on Wednesday next week. Went round to visit him again today.
He'll be our fifth Border Collie. First one was in 1974 a year after we married.
Well just make sure the Bodmin Beast dont get it
Audax67 wrote:Get a dog.
That doesn't surprise me. Where were you brought up?Cugel wrote:Ha ha - I wear my heart on my sleeve and often on my foreheed, so it gets noticed more. Where I was brought up this was normal, since the honest expression of how one feels was regarded as the basis of all other honest behaviours.
You seem to keep bringing fear and now paranoia into discussions where there is no real need to. I am not a particularly anxious person, I find those who tell you their every stress and worry are usually rather more anxious, as a rule.Cugel wrote: But I suppose ....
Paranoia strikes deep
Into your life it will creep
It starts when you're always afraid
Step out of line, the men come and take you away
Buffalo Springfield from their ditty "For What It's Worth".
The people you trust to give you good advice are often the people who will just give you a pet and a stroke, as they agree with your angst. This is known as "staying in my bubble". Personally I prefer to have my bubble burst as this often relieves the pressure.
FInally, here is some advice that might burst your anxiety-bubble. You've got to get over this (feeling) sometime so why not now?
Cugel
Cugel wrote:* Avoid debt unless it's limited, controlled and well within your foreseeable means.
* Never gamble. Even a raffle is mentally dangerous to one's acceptance of reality.
* Consumerism is unavoidable but consuming slowly will only make you mad slowly.
* Don't regard driving (or cycling) as a competition unless it really is one (policed by commissars or marshals).
* Eschew the climbing of greasy poles of every kind, especially those needing you to dislodge the other climbers.
* Don't accept who you are if your reputation is "that nutter". Change for the better is possible.
* Become really good at things. Competance is a mental medicine. Incompetance is a symptom of impending mental disintegration.
* Avoid potted ideologies of every kind in favour of agile pragmatism.
Cyril Haearn wrote:Audax67 wrote:Get a dog.
Good for physical health too cos it needs to be taken walking
Might a cat be good for mental health, in a different way maybe?
Freddie wrote:That doesn't surprise me. Where were you brought up?Cugel wrote:Ha ha - I wear my heart on my sleeve and often on my foreheed, so it gets noticed more. Where I was brought up this was normal, since the honest expression of how one feels was regarded as the basis of all other honest behaviours.You seem to keep bringing fear and now paranoia into discussions where there is no real need to. I am not a particularly anxious person, I find those who tell you their every stress and worry are usually rather more anxious, as a rule.Cugel wrote: But I suppose ....
Paranoia strikes deep
Into your life it will creep
It starts when you're always afraid
Step out of line, the men come and take you away
Buffalo Springfield from their ditty "For What It's Worth".
The people you trust to give you good advice are often the people who will just give you a pet and a stroke, as they agree with your angst. This is known as "staying in my bubble". Personally I prefer to have my bubble burst as this often relieves the pressure.
FInally, here is some advice that might burst your anxiety-bubble. You've got to get over this (feeling) sometime so why not now?
Cugel
With respect to the bubble thing, I don't mean one should seek out those that pander, but those that are wise and dependable, and they are typically few and far between. One wise, trustworthy friend is worth more than any number of reluctant, disinterested consolers.
Anyway, stoicism is a useful quality and telling deep feelings to all and sundry just isn't particularly wise, especially for a man I'd say. It just makes one come over as needy and unstable, which I think many see as a rather unattractive trait and are likely, over time, to start to give a man short shrift because of it.
PDQ Mobile wrote:Cugel wrote:* Avoid debt unless it's limited, controlled and well within your foreseeable means.
* Never gamble. Even a raffle is mentally dangerous to one's acceptance of reality.
* Consumerism is unavoidable but consuming slowly will only make you mad slowly.
* Don't regard driving (or cycling) as a competition unless it really is one (policed by commissars or marshals).
* Eschew the climbing of greasy poles of every kind, especially those needing you to dislodge the other climbers.
* Don't accept who you are if your reputation is "that nutter". Change for the better is possible.
* Become really good at things. Competance is a mental medicine. Incompetance is a symptom of impending mental disintegration.
* Avoid potted ideologies of every kind in favour of agile pragmatism.
Hmm but:-
Also avoid saving, as lack of interest or negative interest will make you mad.
PDQ Mobile wrote:And yet a small flutter that pays off can be surprisingly lifting.
PDQ Mobile wrote:Consume moderately and go mad just after you die.
PDQ Mobile wrote:Always regard driving and cycling as competitive- winning is so much fun and requires so much skill!
PDQ Mobile wrote:Rock climbing and alpine mountaineering, while rather dangerous are quite character building and can be beneficial to
mental wellbeing
PDQ Mobile wrote:"That nutter" is a little hard, but "genuine characters are becoming few and far between" (as I was recently assured!) before being given a kindly bit of assistance. So there may be some advantages?
PDQ Mobile wrote:Competence is laudable but in very short supply nationally IMV; the alternative is:-
"Busy doin' nothin', workin' the whole day through, trying to find lots of things not to do", can be surprisingly pleasant in the right surroundings. Not at all bad for mental health.
PDQ Mobile wrote:With the potted ideologies bit I agree. Though belief in something helps some people, I think that's a given.
Freddie wrote:You are Russell Brand and I claim my £10.
Cyril Haearn wrote:Talking about one's feelings:
A problem shared is a problem doubled. Or halved?
..
TEA mental health tips?
Tangled Metal wrote:Keeping sabbath, shabbat or shabbos? Totally disagree. Why should anyone feel the need to sit around thinking of a creation myth? Better to be out doing something more useful ............ It's slightly funny that as physically tired as you might be through any activity, when you have to completely concentrate on the activity to keep safe you get to another level of tiredness..
Seriously mentally tired through the combination of physical and mental exertion is good for your mental health. Put it this way, you can't brood over anything if you're too tired to think.!