Cheers guys, its always a big risk spending that sort of money on any used item. Yes all I want this fork for is road riding, I just hate potholes that much, I want comfort!
After having a look I think its going to be between these two, both RockShox:
RockShox Reba RL Dual Air (current RRP about £200, weight 1,555g)
(available used for £100-£180) I saw a white one for about £120, black one for £140.
Rockshox SID RCT 3 Dual Air (current RRP over £400, weight 1,487g)
(a used one is on sale for £180)
A few people have said the older "dual air" were better than the "solo" ones that are from 2012 onwards.
So maybe the lower price isn't the only reason to get a used one. This is one thing I hate about bike parts, if we are in 2016 forget them having a fork from 2012... or probably even 2013 or 2014.

Same with how you can't get XTR 8-speed or 9-speed parts new anymore, why doesn't Shimano simply keep on manufacturing them?! Yes all the newer stuff "takes over" but damn, some people DO want a 8-speed or 9-speed drivetrain and all thats out is a load of cheap stuff like Alivio. Even that is going to be phased out where you can't get 8-speed of it anymore.
I would say the second fork above is overkill, its like 50g lighter and twice the price (RRP) but would probably be a better fork, but once upon a time the first fork, when it was new, probably cost that anyway. Second hand prices... well a £600 fork can be on sale for £200 used and a £300 fork can be on sale for £250 used so its all up the wall like it is with bike frames. I have seen frames from £7,500 bikes go for £500! Just because it was a 2002 model or had more scuffs than anyone would like. Pah! I don't care about that. What am I, a show off or a cyclist?
Thats my ultimate plan - a 2.5KG suspension frame (urgh it will probably need to be carbon at that weight but there are Specialized metal frames at 2.5KG) and a fork around £150 that is 1.5KG.
Currently my frame and fork weigh 6,500g together, with a new setup it can be reduced to 4,000g. Thats 5.5lb.
-5.5lb for a £650 outlay... hmmmmmm.
The thing is once that is done I am never going to get a frame much under 2.5KG and I am never going to get a fork much under 1500g so I won't be daydreaming about owning such a bike, I will know by that point I am just about riding on the lightest stuff I can without it getting expensive. I sure don't consider £500 on a used carbon frame expensive if that bike used to be £7,500 for the complete bike, it would be insane even riding around on a bike like that!
Even that granniegear bloke does good prices on frames and most of his prices on other items are just eye-watering. I never realized the used prices were actually this low.

We'll always be together, together on electric bikes.